Some people find it difficult to overcome guilt after setting boundaries. Yet they are crucial for our mental health and happiness as they teach others how to treat us. If someone knows they can coax you into doing something or get you to change your mind, they will. On the flip side if you stick ...
Have you ever thought about creating a healthier relationship with your phone? My guess is that you spend more time with your phone than friends or loved ones. Most of us are glued to our phones. If we can’t find them we experience a horribly dreadful feeling. The more connected we are to our phones, ...
Personal boundaries are a topic that many people struggle with. They may not even know it’s a problem because they are so caught up in the dysfunctional cycle that they think it is normal. Some times if you try to point it out they look flabbergasted or get defensive. Clearly there is a difference between ...
For many people the holidays are filled with joy and wonderful memories. In addition most families have some sort of holiday tradition that involves food. We tend to make these foods only for the holidays. Most of us look forward to these family recipes. This can be very difficult if you also have to manage ...
The holidays are coming up. Many people look forward to being with family and friends. However, there are some people who dread them due to difficult family dynamics. Of course my hope is that you have a well-adjusted family and will enjoy the time with them. For those of you who are ambivalent or dreading ...
Healthy boundaries are something that may be easy to set, yet challenging to stick with. However, by not sticking to your boundaries, you teach people that you don’t really mean what you say. Or they just need to push you or complain and you will give in. If you don’t set or follow through with ...
There are many red flags when it comes to abusive relationships. However, many people ignore or minimize these signs. I truly believe that if people would listen to Maya Angelous quote their lives would less chaotic and they’d be happier. As a therapist I have seen clients share numerous stories of abuse. Some of them ...
As I’ve matured, I’ve had a few aha moments that taught me valuable life lessons. Some were easier to deal with than others. I recently read a blog from mindset.therapy regarding things that we learn later in life. It would have been nice if we learned them sooner. Things that were so important to me ...
Friendships are important to our emotional well-being and sense of belonging. In healthy relationships we can be ourselves, we can trust the person and we feel respected. However, not all friendships are healthy. A toxic friendship is a relationship where one or both people consistently exhibit behaviors that are harmful to the other person’s emotional ...
Learning how to set boundaries is one of my favorite topics to talk and write about. I always tell people, don’t set a boundary unless you are willing to stick to it. Why is it so hard to stick to a boundary? Some people fear that others won’t like them, or will be upset with ...
